We all know to show our emotions but are we open to talking about them... 

As a child we were taught the basic emotions of happy and sad. That we shouldn't feel sad we should always feel happy and live our best lives. In some element I get that, but now that we programmed ourselves to say that when I'm sad that it's a bad thing. We then suppress the emotion or show it as a form of weakness. When actually there is lots of benefits to crying especially releasing toxic energy that doesn't serve us anymore. 

According to the article by Lana Burgess there are 8 benefits to crying 

1. Has a soothing effect. 
2. Gets support from others. 
3. Helps to relieve pain. 
4. Enhances mood.
5. Releases toxins and relieves stress. 
6. Aids sleep.
7. Fights bacteria. 
8. Improves vision. 

The benefits have proof to why crying can be beneficial. However we still have a fear that we will be judged for opening up and expressing our truth. 

We have experienced those moments when we were younger. Someone laughs at us when they are upset or crying to have a sense of power over them. Which is incredibly demeaning on a person. 
Sometimes we need a reminder that it is safe to open up, it is safe to express our emotions, it is safe to tell someone close to us that we are not okay. 

I'm so thankful that when I had a really dark stage in my life I was able to feel safe to open up. Some people aren't that lucky because they believe they can't speak up. BUT WE CAN. 

We just need to give people the space and time to feel like that they can. 

I've got an amazing friend KC and she gives me the availability to use WhatsApp to just voice note whatever is going on in my day and she will respond whenever she needs too. If I really need her I will call her. Having that space just allows me to know that there is someone to go to and gives me the space to open up freely with no judgment or pressure to get a response because I know I will, but I need to reflect on my own emotions and thoughts so I can evaluate why I am feeling like this. It doesn't take too much time away from the both of us, however whenever the emotions come up I am able to vent about it. Then when she does respond I can either take on her world of wisdom or listen to my own truth, either way it is a benefit in being able to learn from my emotions. 
If you don't have someone, then just voice note yourself, it is the best way to get it off your chest. 

In the past I use to suppress a lot of my emotions and that gave me a disorientation anxiety that I feel (like I am on a cruise ship) whenever my emotions are being triggered. I'm learning to live with it because I know it will become part of my life and being able to adapt to it for the next stage of my growth. 

Of course I didn't feel comfortable taking a photo of me crying, but I need to showcase to people that it is okay to open up and confess that you are not okay. The amount of people that opened up to me when I posted this picture they felt a sense of ease and comfort. Imagine what you can do if you start opening up now. 

Are you struggling to open up and need help? Reach out to You Go Girlfriend and I will help you. 

"Accept before you learn how to love"

Katelin Vincent 
Founder of You Go Girlfriend